by Valentina Audley » Mon May 29, 2017 10:44 am
Dear Miss Daye,
I am sorry to hear that you are snowed under, though I am sure Lady Leroux is glad of your assistance. I am sorry to say that it is very unlikely I shall make the Elysium now, as I have a few little matters here to attend to, to aid my lady. I am so sad to think of missing this symbel! I beg that you will write and tell me of the results when it is done, for I confess a quite a curiosity about it.
Whilst you are correct that Mr Swainswick is indeed a treasure of an assistant, I put it to you that if you wished, you too could have such a one. I suggest you look around you to see if there are any Kine in the theatre you think might suit you and if so work from there? You are looking mostly for manners, an agreeable countenance and ability in the work you require doing. Anything else can be arranged after you have acquired them, so to speak.
Speaking of taking Doctor Taylor firmly in hand darling, did you know that there are some gentlemen who thrive under the careful guidance and clear directions from a lady who knows her own mind and is capable of steering such a man? I assure you, the results of doing so can be quite beneficial to both parties. This I believe is true both in Kindred and Kine relationships.
However, we are talking more specifically the courting process of Kindred. The differences come, so I am told, from our ability to live longer and in our inability to procreate in the Kine method. (You must forgive my mentioning such indelicate subjects darling, only in order to discuss this they must be mentioned and I see no reason to cause confusion by being to vague in my referencing). All Kindred have, for parents, one Sire and one Sire alone. Even if you were to marry the good doctor, were you to have a child in our way, the child would be yours and yours alone. So, a formal agreement such as a marriage is not needed for the purposes of continuing the race. Furthermore, even the most long lived of Kine marriages last a mere ninety or so years and most last far less than that. As a Kindred, you may be committing to centuries! This is not to say that your feelings for him are not real, or that they are unimportant, but merely to point out we none of us know exactly what the future will bring us and how we might change in the years between now and then.
It is also worth noting that whilst romance and affection play a part in Kine marriages, when that is put aside they are a social contract to connect two groups of people and to continue the family line and name. Young ladies are hardly ever allowed to chose their own husband and so, romance is most assuredly not the main cause of marriage. As for connecting your families, again in our society such a thing is largely not a part of what we do. Our families, such as they are, are our clans and though in your case you and Doctor Taylor have such a tie, I cannot think of any clan whereby the marriage of one of it's members to one of another clan would cause any real change between them. So marriage serves no useful purpose there either. (Forgive me darling I am rambling somewhat and yet I must confess this subject does cause me a great deal of fascination! I'm indulging my musings by inflicting them upon you!)
This leads us to the conclusion then, that marriage is likely to be the exception and not the norm in our society. However, we must also pay attention to the fact that our society does not permit the public displays of intimacy such as might happen between a man and his wife, nor does it really care for overt showings of romantic feelings. Therefore, we can only conclude that relations of a romantic nature are carried out in private, with none the wiser except the two involved and any others they care to confide in. This has the benefit in that should the relationship end then there are no formal ties to be dissolved and furthermore for as long as the relationship continues, no enemy can use it against those involved. Dear me, what a tide of thoughts I have just heaped upon you darling! I do apologise, for my loquaciousness and at the same time I hope it helps demonstrate why you do not hear of many married Kindred.
Moving on to other things, I had heard that Mr Williamson and Miss Corrigan were no longer with us, though, not why. I am sorry for the loss of your friends, though I fear Mr Williamson serves as a sad example of the perils of thoughtlessness in our society. I am sorry for Miss Corrigan, though sadly unsurprised given her ancestry.
Oxford is beautiful. I have had several enchanting walks around the grounds here and the gardens are delightful in the spring! Alas I have no time to head to any of the theatres, indeed my walks are snatched in between fittings as the time I have for these is short and I must do what I can until so as to make the most of it.
I will end this letter here as I feel the reading of this will be almost as heavy going at the writing of it and you will be glad I have ended it darling. I hope that the preparations for the symbel go smoothly and that your own work does not get eclipsed in the doing so! I shall leave you with the hope that this letter has been of some use in detangling the ways in which our society differs and as ever I hope that my words have given no offence darling!
Fondest regards,
Valentina Audley
Only proper in public darling...